Many people have reported changes in desire one way or another since lockdown. Life has changed a lot for many of us. Many people are working from home still, and are with partners 24/7, which can have an impact on desire. We are going out less, so there is not as much change of scenery, and many are not having “date nights”.
In addition, we have many new practicalities to think about in general, or may be busy with work, childcare and chores. We may be eating more, exercising less, and dressing differently, which may affect how we feel about ourselves and it may mean we lack the desire for sex.
The key thing to think about is that if the reduction in sex is bothering you, or your partner, then you may want to consider what would increase desire for you. Think about injecting playfulness, a little mystery or something new — anything that may help create a bit of excitement and help tackle over-familiarity.
You can create a fun, flirty or romantic date night at home, wear something different (especially to bed), or create a list of things you might like to do together.
We are more likely to feel desire if we feel good in ourselves and relaxed and if the atmosphere feels right, so just be creative.
